Let me ask you something: When was the last time jealousy slithered into your chest? Maybe it was when your friend landed the promotion. Or when their Instagram post lit up with likes. That bitter voice hissed: “Why them? Why not me?”
Here’s the raw truth: Jealousy isn’t about them. It’s about the cage you’ve built around your own joy.
The Lie We Believe: “Their Success Steals Mine”
You’ve been taught life is a competition. A race where someone else’s win means your loss. But here’s the cruel joke: You’re not even running the same track.
Think about this: You share 98.77% of your DNA with a chimpanzee. That 1.23% difference? It’s what lets you build skyscrapers, write poetry, feel jealousy. But here’s the kicker: If you don’t consciously choose to rise, you’ll default to primal pettiness.
Jealousy isn’t a flaw. It’s a relapse.
The Self-Sabotage Cycle
Imagine this: Your friend fails. You ache for them. They succeed? You ache because of them. Either way, you lose.
You’ve wired yourself to lose.
I’ve seen it in the City’s streets. People driving luxury cars, faces tight with stress. The thief who stole the car? He’s the only one grinning. Success doesn’t bring joy. Comparison kills it.
How to Rewire Your Brain (Before You Become the Chimp)
1. Fire Your Inner CEO
Your body is a chemical factory. Right now, it’s brewing envy, bitterness, lack. Why? Because you’re the lousy CEO. Take charge:
- Morning mantra: “Today, I produce bliss.”
- When jealousy strikes, ask: “What chemistry am I brewing?”
2. Break the Mirror
Stop staring at others. Your reflection is distorted. That colleague’s promotion? The influencer’s perfect life? It’s a highlight reel. You’re comparing your raw footage to their edited montage.
3. Own Your Factory
You can’t control the world. But you can control your inner world. Next time jealousy whispers, reply: “I’m the CEO here. We manufacture joy.”
The Day I Quit the Race
Years ago, I sat with a friend who’d just won an award I’d craved. My chest burned. Then I asked: “Why does her light dim mine?”
The answer? It doesn’t.
I started clapping. Not for her. For me. For choosing expansion over shrinkage.
Jealousy dissolves when you realize: The world isn’t a pie. There’s enough success for everyone.
Your Invitation: Become a Bliss CEO
Tonight, stand in front of a mirror. Not to critique, but to command. Say aloud: “I am the architect of my joy. No one else.”
Then act like it.
P.S. The next time jealousy hisses, laugh. Then whisper: “I’m too busy building my empire to count yours.”
Why settle for stealing glances at others’ gardens? Plant your own. Water it. Watch it bloom. The view from your soil? Unbeatable.