Let’s talk about the right person. You know, that mythical creature we’re told exists—the one who’ll complete us, fix our flaws, and make life a never-ending rom-com.
We swipe, we sigh, we daydream. But here’s the raw truth: There is no “right person.” And that’s the best news you’ll ever hear.
Why You’re Chasing a Ghost
Imagine this: You’re at a family dinner. Your uncle scoffs at your partner’s hobbies. Your aunt critiques their career. Your cousin mocks their taste in music. Suddenly, your choice feels like a group project gone wrong.
This isn’t just about Lucy or Shankar. It’s about all of us. We’ve been sold a fairy tale: “There’s one perfect person out there.” But here’s the reality: Perfection doesn’t exist. And chasing it? That’s how love becomes a horror story.
You’re Both a Little Messy (And That’s Okay)
Let’s get real. You have quirks. They have quirks. You leave socks on the floor. They forget to text back. You’re both walking, talking bundles of “nonsense.”
Love isn’t about finding someone flawless. It’s about saying, “Your nonsense dances well with mine.”
- You’re not a puzzle missing a piece. You’re a whole person.
- They’re not a project to fix. They’re a human to embrace.
Shocking Truth: You Are the Project
Before asking, “Are they the right person?” ask: “Am I the right person?”
- Work on yourself. Not to impress others, but to become someone you adore.
- Fill your own cup. Joy, passion, purpose—don’t outsource these. Cultivate them.
When you stop begging for love and start radiating it, people notice. Suddenly, you’re not a hungry ghost. You’re a magnet.
Why Opposites Don’t Just Attract—They Ignite
Think about it: If your partner were your clone, you’d die of boredom by Tuesday.
- Differences spark growth. Their calm quiets your chaos. Your spontaneity shakes their routine.
- Sameness is stagnation. A relationship of clones is a slow-motion snooze fest.
The magic isn’t in alignment. It’s in the tango of differences.
The “Foolproof” Love Formula (Spoiler: It Involves Fools)
Here’s the secret: Love isn’t about choosing the “smartest” or “best.” It’s about choosing to show up.
- Date the “wrong” person. The one who laughs at your weird jokes. The one who listens, even when it’s messy.
- Invest deeply. Love isn’t a lottery. It’s a garden. Water it. Weed it. Watch it bloom.
Even “fools” can build something beautiful—if they’re all-in.
Stop Searching, Start Becoming
Today, try this:
- Ditch the checklist. Go on a date with someone who surprises you.
- Fall in love with you. Dance alone. Cook your favorite meal. Write a love letter… to yourself.
- Celebrate the mess. Next time they leave dishes in the sink, laugh. “Ah, there’s my beautifully flawed human.”
Remember: The goal isn’t to find “the one.” It’s to build a love that’s uniquely yours—flaws, quirks, and all.
Now go—be gloriously, messily, wonderfully you. The right person? They’ll be the one cheering loudest in your corner.