Let’s talk about something that’s on almost everyone’s mind at some point—love.
Not just the fleeting, butterflies-in-your-stomach kind of love, but the real deal.
The kind that makes you think, Is this it? Is this the person I want to share my life with?
But before you dive headfirst into that question, let me ask you something: Are you ready for a serious relationship?
Love at First Sight? Not So Fast.
We’ve all heard the phrase “love at first sight.” It sounds magical, doesn’t it?
Two strangers lock eyes, and boom—lightning strikes.
But let’s be honest: that kind of love comes from a time when people didn’t have much exposure to the opposite gender. Back then, seeing someone for the first time was a big deal. Today? Not so much.
Now, you’re surrounded by people every day. You work with them, study with them, hang out with them. So, when you meet someone new, it’s not a thunderbolt moment. It’s more like, Hmm, interesting. And that’s a good thing.
Why? Because real relationships take time. They’re not built on instant sparks. They’re built on understanding, connection, and shared growth. So, if you’re in a rush to find “the one,” slow down. The more time you take, the stronger your relationship will be.
Two Is Better Than One… Or Is It?
Here’s the thing about relationships: we get into them because we think two is better than one. And sometimes, it is. But here’s the catch: You have to be the right kind of “one.”
Before you even think about committing to someone else, ask yourself: Am I good enough for myself? Are you someone you’d want to be in a relationship with? If the answer is no, then you’re not ready.
Think about it. If you’re not whole on your own, how can you expect to build something meaningful with someone else? Relationships aren’t about filling voids. They’re about sharing your wholeness with someone else’s wholeness.
Lesson
Let me tell you a story. In southern India, there’s a tradition among mango farmers. When they plant a mango sapling, it starts to flower within a year or so. But here’s the catch: the farmers pluck off all the flowers for the first three years.
Why? Because if they let the tree bear fruit too early, it’ll never grow to its full size. It’ll stay small, stunted, and never reach its potential.
You’re like that mango tree.
When you’re young, your focus should be on growth—physically, mentally, emotionally, and energetically.
This is the time to build yourself, to become the best version of yourself.
If you rush into relationships too early, you risk stunting your growth. And if you’re not growing, you’re not becoming the kind of person who can sustain a healthy, lasting relationship.
The Danger of Living Too Early
Here’s the hard truth: If you try to live before you’ve grown, you’ll never become a person of substance.
And if you’re not a person of substance, the relationships you form will reflect that. You might start strong, but over time, the other person will grow. And when they do, they’ll look at you and wonder, Why did I get trapped with this one?
Ouch.
But it doesn’t have to be that way.
If you take the time to grow—to build your body, mind, and spirit—you’ll become someone worth committing to. And when you do enter a relationship, it won’t be out of need or desperation. It’ll be out of choice.
The Invitation
So, are you ready for a serious relationship?
Before you answer, ask yourself:
- Have I taken the time to grow into the best version of myself?
- Am I whole on my own, or am I looking for someone to complete me?
- Am I rushing into love because I’m afraid of being alone?
If you’re not ready, that’s okay. Growth takes time. And when you’re ready, you’ll know.
Because here’s the thing: A serious relationship isn’t about finding the right person. It’s about being the right person.
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