Let’s talk about something we’ve all felt but rarely admit—jealousy.
That sharp, prickly emotion that creeps in when someone else has something we want. Maybe it’s their success, their talent, or their achievements.
And here’s the thing: sometimes, jealousy doesn’t just sit there. It moves us. It pushes us to work harder, to do better, to prove ourselves.
But is that okay? Is jealousy a good motivator? Or is it just a firecracker tied to our tail, making us run faster but burning us in the process? Let’s dive in.
The Donkey and the Firecracker
Imagine this: It’s Christmas, and someone ties a can full of firecrackers to a donkey’s tail. The moment the fuse is lit, the donkey takes off, running faster than a racehorse. It’s terrified, panicked, and in pain—but it’s moving.
Now, ask yourself: Is that how you want to live your life?
Jealousy is like those firecrackers. It might make you run faster, but it’s not a pleasant experience. It’s fueled by fear, insecurity, and comparison. Sure, you might achieve your goals, but at what cost?
The Problem with Jealousy as a Motivator
Let’s be honest: jealousy can motivate you. It can push you to work harder, to outdo someone else, to prove your worth. But here’s the catch: It’s not sustainable.
Think about it. If you’re running because your tail is on fire, how long can you keep going?
Eventually, you’ll burn out. And even if you achieve your goals, the journey will be filled with stress, anxiety, and resentment.
Take Usain Bolt, for example. He didn’t become the fastest man in the world because someone was chasing him or because his tail was on fire. He trained his body, his mind, and his spirit to run with joy, with purpose, with passion.
That’s the kind of motivation that lasts.
The Cost of Running on Jealousy
You might say, But jealousy got me into my dream college! And that’s great. But here’s the question: What was the experience like?
If you spent those years constantly comparing yourself to others, feeling inadequate, and pushing yourself out of fear, was it worth it?
Did you enjoy the journey?
Or
Were you so focused on the destination that you missed the beauty of the path?
Life isn’t just about achieving goals. It’s about how you experience the process. If your motivation comes from jealousy, you might reach the finish line, but you’ll be exhausted, bitter, and empty.
A Better Way to Motivate Yourself
So, if jealousy isn’t the answer, what is?
- Focus on Your Own Growth
Instead of comparing yourself to others, focus on becoming the best version of yourself. Set goals that inspire you, not ones that are fueled by envy. - Celebrate Others’ Success
When someone else achieves something great, don’t see it as a threat. See it as proof that success is possible. Let their achievements inspire you, not intimidate you. - Find Joy in the Process
True motivation comes from passion, not pressure. Find something you love, something that lights you up, and let that drive you.
Invitation
Jealousy might give you a temporary boost, but it’s not the way to live. You don’t have to run because your tail is on fire. You can run because you love the feeling of the wind in your hair, the ground beneath your feet, and the joy in your heart.
So, the next time jealousy creeps in, don’t let it control you. Acknowledge it, but don’t let it be your fuel. Choose a better way—a way that doesn’t burn you out but lights you up.
Also Read: Why Is Life Unfair to Me?