Let’s talk about something we all chase but rarely catch: goals.
You’ve got dreams. Big ones. Maybe it’s a thriving career, a loving family, or a life of purpose. But here’s the hard truth: Most people live and die without ever realizing their unique genius.
Why? Because they’re chasing the wrong thing.
The Cart Before the Horse
Here’s the problem: You’re putting the cart before the horse.
You’re tweaking your desires—setting bigger goals, dreaming bigger dreams—without tweaking your competence. You want the fruit before the tree. The victory before the race.
But here’s the truth: Desire without competence is just stress.
The Machine of You
Think of yourself as a machine. Any machine functions best when there’s no friction. The less resistance, the more efficient it becomes.
But you? You’re full of friction. You’re stressed, overwhelmed, and constantly chasing. Why? Because you’re trying to do before you’ve learned how to be.
The Being-Doing Gap
Here’s the secret: Being comes before doing.
If you don’t know how to be, you’ll suffer no matter where you are or what you achieve. But if you know how to be, you’ll thrive—whether you’re in San Francisco or on Mars.
So, how do you be?
- Tweak Your Competence
Stop obsessing over goals. Start building your skills. Competence isn’t about being the best. It’s about being your best. - Focus on the Soil, Not the Fruit
You can’t force a tree to bear fruit. You can only nurture the soil. In the same way, you can’t force success. You can only cultivate the conditions for it. - Eliminate Friction
Stress isn’t a badge of honor. It’s a sign you’re out of alignment. Find ways to reduce friction—in your body, your mind, and your life.
The Genius Within
Here’s the kicker: You’re a genius.
But 95% of people never realize it. They spend their lives trying to be better than someone else, instead of discovering what makes them unique.
Your genius isn’t about being the best. It’s about being you.
Stop Chasing, Start Being
Here’s how to stop chasing goals and start living your genius:
- Shift Your Focus
Stop asking, “What do I want to achieve?” Start asking, “Who do I want to become?” - Build Competence, Not Ambition
Ambition without competence is a recipe for burnout. Focus on growing your skills, and the results will follow. - Embrace Your Uniqueness
You’re not here to be better than someone else. You’re here to be you. Discover what makes you unique, and let that guide your path.
Final Truth
You don’t need bigger goals. You need a deeper connection to you.
When you know how to be, you’ll know how to do. And when you’re aligned with your genius, success isn’t something you chase—it’s something you become.