Hey there!
I know the moment you clicked on this, you probably had something big weighing on your mind.
Maybe it’s a career move, a relationship decision, or even a bold step toward chasing a dream.
Whatever it is, let’s talk about it—because big decisions shape the course of your life.
Let me share something profound I learned years back in a conversation with my guru.
I asked him, “How do I decide on a goal for my life and develop the personality to achieve it?”
His answer wasn’t what I expected, but it hit home in ways I didn’t see coming.
1. Ask Yourself: Will It Still Matter in 50 Years?
Whatever you’re aspiring for, dreaming of, or setting as a goal—will it really mean something to you 25, 50 years from now?
When you’re on your deathbed, will you still find value in it?” That perspective hit me hard.
We often set goals that feel urgent and important in the moment, but a few years down the line, they may feel like traps.
Think about it—some of the goals you had five or ten years ago… aren’t you glad they didn’t come true?
Life has a way of filtering things for us. The question is, can you step back now and do that filtering yourself?
Don’t let desperation guide your decisions; clarity is your ally here.
2. Step Away from the Noise
He suggested something radical—take a break.
Step away from social, family, and societal influences.
Go somewhere quiet, like a retreat or even just a peaceful corner of your world.
Meditate, reflect, and find your center.
Only when you’re truly at peace, joyful, and clear-headed should you make decisions about the life you want to create.
Why?
Because when we’re desperate or influenced by others, our goals often serve their expectations or our temporary emotions, not our enduring truth.
Imagine chasing a life path only to wake up one day wondering, “Why did I want this in the first place?”
3. Your Personality Is Just a Mask
Here’s a surprising truth:
You don’t need to “build” a personality to achieve your goals.
Personality comes from the Latin word persona, which means “mask.” It’s something you put on, like a costume for a play.
Let me tell you a story about a sage who worked as a chief minister.
Every day, before making important decisions, the sage would go to a room, change into a worn-out robe, and sit with a begging bowl. He’d remind himself of his simplicity and humanity before returning to the grandeur of the palace. The lesson? Never let the masks you wear define your essence.
Your personality is a tool, not your identity.
When you’re rooted in your being—your truth—you don’t need to constantly adjust or “develop” a personality.
The right persona will naturally emerge for whatever situation you’re in.
4. Make Decisions from Your Truth, Not the Lies You Build
If you’ve ever told a lie, you know how much effort it takes to maintain it.
The same goes for living a life built on external expectations or false identities.
Truth, however, doesn’t need maintenance. It just is.
When you sit quietly, stripping away the noise, the influence, and the pressures, your truth will surface.
That’s the foundation for any life-changing choice.
Decide from that place, not from the masks you’ve put on for the world.
5. Pause, Reflect, and Then Act
I know life doesn’t always give us the luxury of time to think things through.
But here’s the thing: if a decision is truly life-changing, it deserves that time.
So, pause. Reflect. Strip away the layers of influence.
Ask yourself, “Will this decision bring enduring value to me, not just today but for years to come?”
If the answer is a resounding yes, go for it. If it’s unclear, give yourself the grace of time to find clarity.
Big decisions can be daunting, but they don’t have to be. When you approach them with honesty, peace, and a deep connection to your truth, they become opportunities for growth, not burdens.
So, what’s that life-changing choice you’re considering?
Take a moment today to pause, reflect, and reconnect with yourself. And remember—this is your journey. Make it one that feels true to you.
I’d love to hear from you! What big decision are you currently facing? And did this article help you gain some clarity? Drop a comment below!